My ex telling me that he was worried I was getting too fat to fuck him was one of many things that should have been last straws but I still stayed for well over two years after that.
In a lot of ways I don’t regret it.
I left on my terms when I was ready to leave and what I’ve come to understand is that the epitaph of “I should have left sooner” is a form of victim-blaming we perpetuate against ourselves. It is not helpful. Reframe it.
Jan 29, 2026 17:09Leaving when I was ready left me free to get in touch with my needs, to pursue my long-held personal and career goals, to heal, and to eventually meet someone who treats me like a partner instead of a therapist or mom.
I was able build a meaningful, authentic for myself, and I deserve that.
