- BDSM Tip: Don't let anyone tell you what your D/s role is! Don't let anyone tell you what fetishes or kinks you are into! You get to decide for yourself. You get to be whoever you want to be. And you get to change, if you want too. Also, a person trying to dictate to you is a red flag 🚫 #BDSMTipMar 29, 2025 19:42