I matched with a guy who asked me if I dated ENM, and I said “yes as long as they set realistic expectations for how much effort they can hive me” because in my experience they will devote tons of attention to me at the start and then decide it’s not sustainable,
Which I think is reasonable
Feb 4, 2026 19:31Absolutely reasonable, and if he doesn’t understand the legit basis for such a concern, he’s probably just yet another dude losing the “remember the E in ENM” challenge.
my biggest problem with that phrase is... who is the arbiter of whether or not you're being ethical?
I’ve sure heard of a lot of [cis het] guys whose sensibilities don’t match mine in that regard…
