Lovette 🏳️🌈
Published Author || 9x Award Winning Lecturer || Public Speaker || AuDHD || 🇬🇲🇸🇪🇳🇬🇨🇮 || 📧Lovette@Lovettejallow.com
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- “Will my nonspeaking autistic child ever speak?” is a search-bar question. Under it sit two fears: fear for the child’s future, and fear of how family will interpret the child. Speech becomes proof of “good parenting.” The child becomes a performance. #autism #nonspeaking
- If calm love feels suspicious, your body is doing exactly what it was trained to do. Many of us learned “connection” through emotional turbulence. The nervous system adapts fast, it starts reading intensity as closeness, chaos as care, and steadiness as the moment before something breaks. Post 1/3:
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- Why do people make promises they don’t keep, then keep interacting like nothing happened? That silence is the second breach. This essay breaks down dopamine, image, and cost transfer, with autistic and ADHD context. Link: open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
- Have you ever had someone promise you something, disappear, then return like it was nothing? I wrote about broken promises, silence, and why “good intentions” mean nothing without repair. #Autism #ADHD #accountability. Read here: 👇🏾
- 🚨 ANNOUNCEMENT 🚨 Introducing my next patented design: the Butthole Washer™, engineered for MEN who want to be clean while needing reassurance that cleanliness can still look serious & not make anything gheyy or weird. Yes, it’s black & aggressively industrial. 1/2⤵️
- 🚨 ANNOUNCEMENT 🚨 It has officially been 12 months since I discovered that when men sit on the toilet… their junk just hangs in the bowl. Since that day, I have not known peace. I have lived with questions. I stared into the middle distance. I whispered, “Why would God design it like this?” 1/4⤵️
- Autistics, gather round. Are we all rehearsing our gift-opening faces, or coordinating plausible excuses for why we suddenly cannot attend? Personally, I am considering faking an eye infection. I will provide written feedback once I am home and have opened the gift in private. #autism 1/2⤵️
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- Mental health stigma is not a shield from accountability. Autistic people are tired of being labeled “unwell” for asking for the work we paid for. People prey on autistics and think we will be silent. Documentation is public now. @digitaldavina.bsky.social
- Have you ever paid for work, ghosted, & then when you asked for accountability months later, you were told you’re “unwell” for expecting a refund? Many autistic’s know this pattern. Emotional closeness as cover. Mental health weaponised to avoid responsibility. Meet @digitaldavina.bsky.social
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- Autistic over-explaining isn’t always clarity we mask as conversation. New essay: the neuroscience of trauma loops, loops, workplace strategies, and practical tools to speak less without losing yourself. For anyone who ends every sentence with “you know what I mean?” Here’s what’s happening 👇🏾 1/2
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- I’ve expanded and edited my essays on autism and ableism into one full piece, now with audio. If You’re Autistic, You Are Disabled explores internalised ableism, race, and liberation. Join 7,000 readers on Substack, new essays for neurodivergents are coming. open.substack.com/pub/lovettej...
- Hate to be the bearer of neutral news, but to be diagnosed autistic you have to meet criteria for significant impairments. That means yes, you’re disabled. Your diagnosis already confirmed it. People are crying blood on IG and linkedin because I said it out loud. Masking doesn’t ⤵️
- New essay out now: on what happens when unhealed childhood wounds steer adult relationships how trauma, whiteness, and emotional displacement keep people recreating the same unsafe spaces they try to escape. Both written and audio versions available. open.substack.com/pub/lovettej... 1/3 ⤵️
- 1/4 Autistics: minding our business Randos: “Hey freak, why are you like this? Let’s rattle off 10,000 fake causes instead of just making life accessible. Cos it couldn’t possibly be my parents doing the horizontal mambo 9 months before I was born no protection…like every other human.” Carry on.
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- 1/3 Why do so many parents only realize they’re autistic or ADHD after their child is diagnosed? Because children are not clay to mold. They are mirrors genetic, ancestral, unflinching. #AutismDiagnosis #ADHDParenting #Neurodivergence #AutismAcceptance #IntergenerationalHealing #CureCulture
